9/11 and September Depression 

What’s the hardest part of September? 

For me September comes with depression. The weather changes, traffic increases, school starts and 9/11. 

I remember September 11 2001, 15 years ago, reaching to school late. My class was located upstairs the principal’s office so I had to pass the teachers break room before I got to class. I glanced in as I did most times but something was different. There were some form six students glued to the TV and teachers all around.  I was late, why weren’t they in class? I glimpsed the screen. I swore it was a movie. Tears welled up. 

All I thought was about all the people who had been injured. I continued watching. Tower one collapsed. I was lost. 

I remember heading to class in tears. Hearing the flight number I vaguely remember worry about one of my cousins and their trip to NEw York and wondering if this was the number I heard. I scraped the floors of my mind to be certain. Fear ripped through me. I cried.  

Getting home that day I took a taxi in. As the car approached I saw my mom walking. Hunched, more like crawling. Her body begging to make it inside. As the car passed her and stopped I exited and faced her. She was about one house away. Her face was contorted with worry and fear. All my fears came back. I was so wrong 

It was my Aunty. My Aunty I had spoken to the Sunday before this Tuesday. The Aunty who promised to make me my graduation dress. The Aunty who joked about my wedding, pressed my hair out like no other, had a genuine soul, an unforgettable smile, red skin, brown hair and an infectious sprit. 

You see she worked in the tower. I know I said the tower but that’s because there is only one in my mind. That. One. Tower.  

I remember mom leaving with my grandma and uncles. I remember my family who laughs all the time silent. I remember seeing grandma age. No AGE OVERNIGHT. I remember my uncle, in New York, missing. No one could find him. He was searching for his wife. He was deep in ash and rubble. He was on every corner and block. He was a mad man. 

I remember they called. They were laughing again. It was after the service. There wasn’t anything found to put in a casket. They planted a tree. They renamed a street. They fondly remembered her. 

There was a knock. The door was answered. Dental records were used. She was truly gone. 

Silence. 

A sigh of relief when the plane lands safely in Trinidad. 

A year later or so. The phone rings. 

Mom is at her desk at work. The phone rings. She answers. It’s the Us Embassy. “Are you sitting down ma’am ” 

“We regret to inform you your sister Clara Hinds was one of the souls lost……….”

Silence. 

Every year I’m bombarded with post on 9/11. I don’t know if any of my family actually went to any services locally. I’ve been to ground zero. I’ve seen her name etched beautifully in the pool. I’ve struggled to make it through the exhibit. 

I’m left with conspiracy theories post from people who weren’t affected, documentaries, articles. 

I don’t watch TV in September. 

I walk on eggshells around my mom in September. 

I wish someone would wake me up when September ends. 

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Herbalife and breastfeeding. 

This post is going to make loads of people mad at me. This post must be done. 

Is Herbalife safe, or as safe as they claim it to be, while breastfeeding? 

No 

It is not safe. I don’t think you want your baby to be a test subject. It is explicitly unsafe while exclusively breastfeeding to ingest Herbalife or anyother weight loss product. Why? Let’s break this down. 

Logically anything that makes you lose weight, natural or not, can pass through your milk and affect your baby and his/weight gain. 

But let’s get a bit scientific. 


Above it the actual ingredients of the French vanilla shake. 

Fructose :- The American Nutritional Journal article on why fructose is bad should suffice. Since I know some won’t click the link Articles Mercola has a great breakdown chart I’d place here. 


Why would a herbal, all healthy good for you drink contain fructose? Why not a more natural sweetener? 

Here are some articles that will have you thinking about how fructose can affect your baby through your breastmilk. 

Fructose Malabsorption

Another study suggests ” that “Consuming fructose during suckling may result in lifelong changes in body weight, insulin secretion, and fatty acid transport involving CD36 in muscle and ultimately promote insulin resistance.” Suckling equates to the breast-feeding period in humans. If these results translate to us, it suggests that a child receiving fructose during the first year of its life may be programmed from day one for obesity and Type II Diabetes.” Fructose and Babies by David Gillespie  

So head over to google and see why you maybe should be having a fructose rich diet or meal replacement drink while breast feeding. 

Lecithin powder :- According to livestrong “Because lecithin powder can bond with both lipids and non-lipids, such as oil and water, manufacturers use it to combine the ingredients in foods such as candy and margarine. It is also added to cooking sprays because it helps keep baked goods from sticking to pans. Lecithin may also appear as a dietary supplement with various health benefit claims, but many of these claims are unsubstantiated by independent scientific research. Only take a lecithin supplement after speaking with your doctor and a registered dietitian.”

For breastfeeding moms, we know of this powder if we have suffered from mastitis. It can safely be used (in its pure form) to help prevent mastitis with little or no harm to the baby. Please remember this must come from your doctor or lactation consultant.  

Soy protein isolate :- it’s soy right? 

Most soybeans in the Us used to get this protein are GMO.  “Genetically modified soybeans are designed to be “Roundup ready.” That’s right. They are chemically engineered to withstand heavy doses of herbicides without killing the plant! What does this mean for your health and the health of your unborn or yet-to-be-conceived children?”

Hm m. Interesting. Also according to Mercola and many other articles out there, the benefits of soy have been very overstated. Here is a overview of what the good doctor has to say in his article on Soy isolate. 

Maltodextrin :- according to The risks of Maltodextrin this compound is another sugar used to increase energy. This is the second ingredient so far that is high on the glicimic index. The article explains that if one isn’t active enough this particular compound can lead to weight gain instead of weight loss. 

Breastfeeding moms know weight loss and weight gain are two factors of development monitored constantly by medical personnel on each visit. Let’s just leave that here. Again. Google. It. Do. Your. Research. 

Calcium and sodium caseinate:- Hello MSG! Yes that’s just what it is. 😳. Yeah. Fancy names for good ole MSG! 

Here are some links Truth labelingLife spaLivestrong and Health impact news

Corn barn. 😳😳 I don’t even know what this is and it’s the easiest to pronounce. 

Guar Gum:- say hello to your laxative. According to Life Science  “the gum can function as a laxative by forming a bulky gel that moves the contents of the intestines along. For this reason, doctors will sometimes prescribe the stuff to alleviate symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome or Crohn’s disease” I don’t think you want to be ingesting laxatives while breastfeeding. Just don’t. 

One herbal supplimemts page Share Care Inc warns that you should “Use cautiously when breastfeeding. You should read product labels, and discuss all therapies with a qualified healthcare provider. Natural Standard information does not constitute medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.”

At this point I have only been through Eight of the ingredients listed. I’m already convinced that you should not take this while breastfeeding and be very cautions while pregnant. 

I am not a doctor, I am not a weight loss fanatic. I believe that eduction is necessary and that we should research to help ourselves. 

One more article that is of interest is posted by mommies favorite Kelly Mom. Have a read.  

At the end of the day I know many moms struggle with weight loss after baby.make your decisions wisely. 

Ethics when shopping. 

I usually teach my daughter that right is right and wrong is wrong. I go around helping displaced children and improvised families and show her that her eight and a half years of life thus far has been really blessed. Due to her blessings she should help others.  

So what about how we shop? Are we practicing the same thing? Are we helping the improvised and dispossessed or voiceless with the way we shop? 

I sadly do not. 

I have both children dressed in brands like, Carters, old navy, Gap, H&M, many Walmart brands and the like inclusive of Nike and Addidas.

I make it my business to check into outlet malls to get even better prices when shopping and not bat an eyelid on the background of the company (parent company included) or the method of production. 

Recently I saw a video that showed the toxicity that denim production causes and I cringed. How could this be happening and I’m content in purchasing my SO some new Levi’s every chance I get!? 

So I dug, not even very deep, and found out various brands that I ❤️ are more disgusting that I would have thought. How do I feel knowing my children’s clothing, my make up, my household items and shoes are drenched in the sweat, blood and tears of children? That these brands that are in my home are linked to building collapses and deaths in the thousands? That’s these brands that I brag about being able to “get really cheap ” are made with people who can’t even eat!? 

I feel remarkably sick to my stomach. 

But what can i do? I can’t afford brands that cost hundreds of dollars (US dollars at that). I can’t afford to clothe all the people in my family!  

Even when buying in to the theory of ethical brands we still get shocked. The Honest company isn’t that honest? Burt’s bees made by whom? 

Here is a small breakdown of what I’ve found out. 

Let’s focus on our household favorite Walmart. 

Walmart has long had issues regarding international labour laws. The daily dot Covers this and more. Let’s focus on the child labour issues. 

Global labour rights Article here looks at the way children in Bangladesh are treated by Walmart, Hanes, JCP and others. Children, sometimes younger than eleven are enslaved in these concentration camp type sweat shops and forced to work, sometimes being abused. The wages are around 11 1/2 cents per hour.  Yes. ELEVEN AND A HALF CENTS PER HOUR. the kicker? These companies think this is too much. That is under $1.00 USD a day. While our children go to school, play, give trouble to eat veggies and do homework these children are working, sometimes overtime in sweat shops making under a dollar a day. 

“In the month of September, the children had just one day off, and before clothing shipments had to leave for the U.S. the workers were often kept at the factory 95 to 110 hours a week. After being forced to work a grueling all-night 19-to-20-hour shift, from 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 or 4:00 a.m. the following day, the children sleep on the factory floor for two or three hours before being woken to start their next shift at 8:00 a.m. that same morning.”

Walmart does more than enslave children. They aslo use corrupt business practices to make headway in new and emerging markets.  In 2012 Walmart was involved in a Huge corruption scandal  in Mexico. In 2015 they were probed (not for the first time) for Payoffs and Bribes in Brazil. This year a four year, global probe is ending. This probe reveals misconduct in these countries and Corruption in China and India

These are just two of the many issues that Walmart has internationally. Throw in minimum wage payments to workers in the Unitwd States, the anti- Union sentiment and the general working conditions Walmart is an all out evil company. 

What can we do here in Trinidad? 

Honestly not much. I can’t tell you to stop spreading your budget, purchasing the things you have to at the best price possible. I can ask you to research more, spend better, restrict spending on brands and in companies that are unethical. The most you can do is take away as much as you can from these companies. 

Brands like old navy, Hanes, Carters, George, child of mine (by Carters), Nike, Addidasand so on have had their issues. Research, see how they have remedy the issues and then make your decision. 

To talc or not to talc? 

“IARC classifies talc that contains asbestos as “carcinogenic to humans.”
Based on the lack of data from human studies and on limited data in lab animal studies, IARC classifies inhaled talc not containing asbestos as “not classifiable as to carcinogenicity in humans.”

Based on limited evidence from human studies of a link to ovarian cancer, IARC classifies the perineal (genital) use of talc-based body powder as “possibly carcinogenic to humans.””

This excerpt is from the American Cancer Society article in talc and its link to cancer. 

Yesterday I did an article where I reviewed baby powder and many moms came out stating they do not use it. A healthy conversation was had that prompted my research further into talc and the mysterious link to cancer. 

In the 1970’s talc it hat was used in personal care products contained asbestos which is a known carcinogen. This caused the talc and personal care powders to cause cancer.

 Cases like that of Ms. Breg, who developed ovarian cancer after using Johnsons & Johnsons baby powder between her legs for 30 years, highlighted the possible link between personal care products containing talc and cancer. The New York Times Article here states that talc particles had been found inside her tumor!  It travelled up genitourinary tract and lead to inflammation which could have possibly caused cancer. 

It is important to note the studies are limited and causation has not been established. As the Cancar society stated talc can be “possibly carcinogenic to humans”. 

If you wish to be safe avoid talc products, especially around your genitals. 

What’s talc products? 

From blush to eye shadow to facial powder contain talc. It is not only found in baby powder. If you are worried about cancer being linked to talc I suggest you closely examine all your products, keep researching new studies and findings and stay on the safe side. 

Some useful links. 

Safety cosmetics
The FDA
The prairie land herbs
There are a host of articles out there. Remember research is still ongoing on asbestos free talc. The studies and findings will change. 

Separation anxiety 


Right now I’m dealing with serious separation anxiety. My LO screams bloody murder when ever I leave her with someone else, even a family member. 

My SO celebrated his birthday on Wednesday and we plan to have some drinks on Saturday. That will entail leaving my LO with my sister for a few hours during the day into the evening. To try to ease this I have been leaving her for short times with my sister (who she knows) with toys and with her big sister around and my four month old just screams.  

I know of seperation anxiety usually from 6 months but four months is ridiculous. 

Now because of her blood curdling cries I’m up at 3:00am on Friday morning worrying about the feasibility of Saturday’s outing. 


My heart is beating no thumping, I feel nauseous, I have a headache and I can’t sleep. My nerves of being away and her crying endlessly till I get back is taking a toll on me. This is an avoidable seperation. 

I’m stuck between a rock and sever hard places. 

I’m slowing becoming depressed about leaving her.  I think it’s harder on me that her. 

All the what ifs play in my mind. 

What if my sister can’t handle it and just leaves her to cry? I know that won’t happen but my mind is plaguing me with questions. 

What if she is so upset she won’t eat or sleep or even calm down? I’d be far away on a boat at that and not able to come home! 

I’m a mess. 

Parenting. 

Normalizing the view of breastfeeding and Arousal while breastfeeding.  

Netmums of Facebook recently shared a video of one of their own Sophie breast feeding a child while laying in bed. The child was a boy, assumingly over two and was playing with his mothers other nipple. This sparked outrage, disgust and some encouragement in the community. 

A few weeks ago, I saw a screen shot posted on Facebook. The shot was of a mom’s status. 

This mom claimed that she masturbated while breastfeed her son and she enjoyed it. 
The sexualized breast is problematic for most persons (even moms themselves and breast feeders) to overcome when discussing breastfeeding. Breast are commonly seen as objects of attraction and not of vessels of nutrition. 

Admittedly, both incidents in Facebook disturbed me. There is a conversation to be had about arousal during breastfeeding. This is a thing and it needs to be given space to be addressed.  It also opens a discussion about age limits and when a mother should stop breastfeeding.  

Let’s speak about the video. The mom involved has a You Tube channel so you can catch the videos there.  

The video disturbed me. It’s not about breastfeeding beyond one or two. It’s about the way breast feeding was portrayed.  We in the breast feeding community have been trying to normalize breast feeding through education and awareness. We have advocates posting your breastfeeding selfies and candid shots. Then here comes a lady, laying in bed, breastfeeding while her son plays with her exposed nipple. 

Don’t get me (and a lot of other mothers wrong) there is nothing inherently wrong with the image. The issues is, that this image, like it our not affects the breastfeeding discussion negatively.  Some mothers commented on the mothers face and expressions during the breastfeeding session. Some moms commented that the act of feeding nor the child made them uncomfortable  but the mother did. 

I’d leave this discussion here.  Feel free to pick it up and leave me feed back. 
Now, on to arousal while breast feeding. 

According to Baby center it is completely normal to feel arousal while breastfeeding and it is nothing to be ashamed about. Life hacker’s Article covers it also. You see there are a lot of chemical and hormonal releases that occur while breastfeeding which lead to feelings of satisfaction and arousal. Also, for moms who have always been turned on by foreplay involving breast will still find it arousing. 

Acting on these arousals while a baby is present or attached to you is disconcerting to say the least! 

“Oxytocin, which is secreted by the posterior pituitary, has two major functions in relation to breastfeeding: a) a new mother feels her uterus contract during breastfeeding, and b) it is responsible for the milk ejection reflex during breastfeeding and orgasm.”  There is a really good but slightly long study about the taboo surrounding arousal while breastfeeding called Sex and Breastfeeding: An Educational Perspective

Fact is that is happens. It is normal. As a mother you have to compartmentalize these feelings and realize through research and education that it is normal but not to abuse this by acting on these feelings while your baby is present.  

There is so much more I can say but this article is a work in progress.  I need feed back and discussion!  What are you views? When should you stop breastfeeding? Do you get aroused? Does your partner get aroused when you breastfeed? How do you cope with issues of breast feeding? 

The formula fed journey. 

So many sites, Facebook forums, articles and blogpost focus on the breastfeeding journey in its entirety, while there are hardly any chronicling the journey of a formula feeding mom. 

Some of you may be confused as to what I’m speaking about but ff moms also have a unique journey that deserves a space and a discussion. 

The journey starts with a decision, a failure, depression, bartering and judgement.  A formula fed mom can go through all these steps before even feeding their LO for the first time. 

For some it is a well thought out decision. They are simply not going to breast feed. They know the pros and cons and are simply not comfortable or confident enough and have decided that for their situation bottle is best. 

Some, like me with my first, tried to breastfeed and failed. This, coupled with a lack of breastfeeding support from family, lead to formula being supplimemted and then being exclusive, extremely early in my daughters life. 

In hindsight I see the many reasons breastfeeding didn’t work. I didn’t read much on it, as I thought it would be a “natural thing”. I bought a cheap off brand pump, I didn’t research ways to reduce pain or bruising and I didn’t understand the latch differences.

 I gave up and had to face the condescending looks when I went to clinic for the first time. Every breast feeding mama and well-to-do nurse had some advice and a few questions as to why the baby wasn’t being “given the best start in life “. I must admit I was ashamed. I began to feel depressed and beat my self up about depriving my baby of what she deserves. 

I struggled with these feelings for a long time. It was made worse when my baby didn’t easily take formula either. 

She was constipated, had acid reflux, consistently brought up or spit up (it was so bad that in outings we walked with towels not rags). I tried every single enfamil on the shelf. There are ones for fussy babies, gassy babies, babies who spit up, the ones closest to mothers milk, the soy ones, the this ones and the that ones and nothing seemed to settle my LO. I switched and switched until she settled on simalac. Then I bought every tim I saw because I didn’t ever want to run out and have to buy something else that I knew would irritate her. 

See the parts of the formula fed journey that isn’t told deals with all this. The constipated  and dehydrated baby who cries and whose stool is so hard it hurts to pass.

 It is about the half tins and wasted whole tins of milk that you bought which the baby won’t keep down. 

It is about constantly worrying about the nutrition and weight gain (and loss) of your LO.

 It is about praying you don’t run out of money just trying to find the right formula and hoping that when you find it it isn’t that expensive and that it is easily found.

 It is the making sure you have hot water thermos and cool water thermos because unlike boobs bottles aren’t ready on demand, they have to be prepared first. If too hot the worry is that the baby gets burnt if too cold the baby won’t drink it.

 It is about making that bottle and then the baby didn’t want it and it wastes and you worry about the fact that that is money going down the drain. 

It is about the leaving a bottle out and inadvertently picking it up at 2am and feeding a baby only to realize half way through and sit up the rest of the night monitoring the baby for symptoms.  

It is about formula spills in the bag, making a bottle when the Dan is on or in breeze, changing nipples and bitten nipples swallowed, cleaning bottles, buying more bottles, loosing bottles and not having enough bottles on the go. It is about the constant spending and spending and then some more spending just to make sure your LO is fed and healthy. Then it is about the questions and guilt. It is about the need to defend the way you feed your human. It is the need to prove that you are doing what is best in your circumstance in your life for your LO and your family.  It is the constant state of being judged and questioned. 

The formula feeding journey has as many ups and downs and intricacies as the breast feeding journey and should be recognized. 

Have you formula fed? What are your stories. 

The darker side. Postpartum depression. 

I’m sitting here with a glass of wine, my three month old asleep and I’m unwinding after a long day. I made a quick dinner of sauted mushrooms and baby spinach paired porkchops. My SO sits next to me playing a game on his phone while the tv runs on America’s funniest home videos. It’s a good Thursday. 

Not every mom is that fortunate. Even I have been less fortunate than this. 

This article is about postpartum depression. It would be remiss of me not to write this in light of the three month old and mother found dead of apparent suicide. 

Parenting is hard. That is a fact.  Newborns are hard. It is an adjustment. Breathe. 

When my last daughter was born (I have two Shauneece is eight and Arlene-May is three months old) I had it rough. I spent time at my mothers house and my SO wasn’t there every day nor all night. You see we run a family business and that is at home. He needed to be there. It couldn’t be helped but I still felt betrayed.

 My daughter would scream and cry and bawl. Even with the help of my mom and elder sister I was overwhelmed. 

She has horrible gas, colic and breastfed every hour. EVERY HOUR. 

I was sleep deprived. I was in pain (labour was a bitch and so was the weight I gained during the last month). I was frustrated. I was upset and angry. I was pissed off that things didn’t work out for my SO to be there. I felt alone even though I had my family.  

I still had my father in law who came everyday and brought food and spent an hour or so with the baby. 

I still had my mom who danced this baby to sleep. Who lost sleep her self. Who made me breakfast in bed. 

I had my sister who spent her Easter vacation helping with the baby. I had my eldest and my neices and nephew helping. 

I didn’t wash or cook or clean. I still felt overwhelmed. 

I saying all this because even though I had all this and a supportive SO I still felt dejected, sad, mad, depressed and alone. 

Imagine having none of this. No one to help, no support system, no one to make you food, wash baby clothes, clean, hold the baby while I showered (this is so huge). No SO to take you to get your hair done, no church, no amazing friends, imagine you were doing it all alone. Doing it all alone with five other children. 

Breast feeding is hard. Newborns are hard. Recovering from delivery is hard. Never discount a mother who is trying yet is unable. Postpartum depression is real. 

Postpartum progress Is an amazing resource to help you understand the difference between postpartum depression and posrpartum anxiety or OCD. It tells you about the time factor for  ppd. 

International postpartum support Trinidad and Tobago affords you the resources to speak to certified persons who can help you. There are also groups and sessions you can attend locally that affords you an outlet to express your self. 
If you think pregnancy and motherhood can be too much for you, take the initiative and create your own mommy group. While pregnant you should be attending a clinic. This clinic should be in your area. There will be a host of mommas and mommas to be that you can create a support group while pregnant and keep postpartum. 

Resist the urge to shake a crying baby violently. Resist the urge to hurt your baby. Reach out for help. This community is here to help. There are outlets for you to reach out for help. 

Please take care of other mommas. Please be mindful of each other. It is our job to be our sisters keepers. 
This hits home as baby Sidney was born one day before my daughter. She is the same age as my daughter. 

RIP Anika Gabriel I’m sorry for your pain.  RIP baby Sidney. My heart breaks. 

This is the article

More resources. 

Mamatoto
Baby blues
Dads get postpartum too

Is breast best? 

Ok so let’s talk about boobs. There is a wonderful movement advocating breast feeding and the normalizing of public breast feeding. I’m all for this movement as I breast feed openly and my LO hates to be covered. So moms don’t feel comfortable doing it and that’s ok. That doesn’t make you less of a breast feeding mommy. 

The problem I have with the movement is that is has started to become a bit catty. Breastfeeders are adopting a superiority complex over formula feeders.  When EBF’s (exclusively breast feeders ) gang up on a mom it is the most painful thing I can watch. 

Let me get this straight. FED is best. How ever you see it for to feed your LO fed is best!

I feel this way because although I’m a successful breastmilk producing and dispensing badass now, I could manage to feed my first born from the tap. I remember the questions. People asking if I tried hard enough, asking if I gave up, telling me my LO would be “not as smart, not as healthy, not as thin, not as developed ” as a breastfed baby. There were days I though o was doing it wrong, felt like I was failing my LO, especially in Trinidad where every nurse in the hospital and clinic wants to remove “artificial nipples ” and are extremely judgmental.  I want no mom to feel this. 

There was nothing special I did this time. There was no more or extra effort. There wasn’t a special technique I learned. It just worked this time. My LO latched, my nipples didn’t bleed, my milk came in faster and it just worked. 

Do not stress, if it hurts the latch is incorrect. There is a breastfeeding group at MT Hope (I don’t know the days and times as it changes ) Read as much as you can. There are also things you can take to increase your supply. Please consult your physician first. 

The breastfeeding journey can be difficult. The Trinidad and Tobago breast feeding association Can help also if you need more help you can check. 

La leche league international
International Lactation Consultants
There are many other sites but I find these two most helpful. They cover breastfeeding and pumping and advise on milk storage and preparation. 

If you really want breast milk look for a wet nurse or donor milk in your area. It’s a new venture in the country so as usual research and keep you physician involved in the process. 

What’s your feeding story? Share with us in the comments section! 

Hiya nice to meet you 

Hi there! Thanks for taking the time out to join me on this journey into mommyhood. I’m starting this blog and it’s called Under the Fuzzy Blanket. It’s named after my daughter’s favorite thing and her favorite place to be. Who doesn’t like to cuddle and be nurtured under a soft fluffy blanket?It will appare here on trinimomcorner.

My name is Anisa Edmund and I have two girls one is eight and one is three months at this time.

I have experienced so much in my life as a mom from divorce to single mothering, dating while being a single mom, pursuing a degree, working, maintaining a social life etc etc etc.

Currently I’m in a happy relationship with my SO and we are plodding along with our family businesses trying to make our way in this world.


We are an interracial couple who love food and family so there will be a few food posts also lol.

The purpose of this blog is to engage and inform mothers and new mothers about all the advances in baby care and gear available that I find through my research and experiments (poor kids).

I intend to do product reviews ; for things I’ve tried for both girls (so there will be a huge age difference ). The reviews will cover baby gear and toys, clothing, educational websites, lessons schools, places to go things to do here in Trinidad and Tobago.

I intend to do parenting style perspectives as I waddle my way through it all ; attachment parenting, co parenting and the whole step fathering and grandfathering.

I hope to be able to help where I can, learn what I can from you guys and answer a many questions as possible.

This is an interactive group so your posts and pictures and are always welcomed.

As I develop this idea more I will expand what I post about but it will be centered around my life as a mom and the things you and I face living loving and growing.