Ethics when shopping. 

I usually teach my daughter that right is right and wrong is wrong. I go around helping displaced children and improvised families and show her that her eight and a half years of life thus far has been really blessed. Due to her blessings she should help others.  

So what about how we shop? Are we practicing the same thing? Are we helping the improvised and dispossessed or voiceless with the way we shop? 

I sadly do not. 

I have both children dressed in brands like, Carters, old navy, Gap, H&M, many Walmart brands and the like inclusive of Nike and Addidas.

I make it my business to check into outlet malls to get even better prices when shopping and not bat an eyelid on the background of the company (parent company included) or the method of production. 

Recently I saw a video that showed the toxicity that denim production causes and I cringed. How could this be happening and I’m content in purchasing my SO some new Levi’s every chance I get!? 

So I dug, not even very deep, and found out various brands that I ❤️ are more disgusting that I would have thought. How do I feel knowing my children’s clothing, my make up, my household items and shoes are drenched in the sweat, blood and tears of children? That these brands that are in my home are linked to building collapses and deaths in the thousands? That’s these brands that I brag about being able to “get really cheap ” are made with people who can’t even eat!? 

I feel remarkably sick to my stomach. 

But what can i do? I can’t afford brands that cost hundreds of dollars (US dollars at that). I can’t afford to clothe all the people in my family!  

Even when buying in to the theory of ethical brands we still get shocked. The Honest company isn’t that honest? Burt’s bees made by whom? 

Here is a small breakdown of what I’ve found out. 

Let’s focus on our household favorite Walmart. 

Walmart has long had issues regarding international labour laws. The daily dot Covers this and more. Let’s focus on the child labour issues. 

Global labour rights Article here looks at the way children in Bangladesh are treated by Walmart, Hanes, JCP and others. Children, sometimes younger than eleven are enslaved in these concentration camp type sweat shops and forced to work, sometimes being abused. The wages are around 11 1/2 cents per hour.  Yes. ELEVEN AND A HALF CENTS PER HOUR. the kicker? These companies think this is too much. That is under $1.00 USD a day. While our children go to school, play, give trouble to eat veggies and do homework these children are working, sometimes overtime in sweat shops making under a dollar a day. 

“In the month of September, the children had just one day off, and before clothing shipments had to leave for the U.S. the workers were often kept at the factory 95 to 110 hours a week. After being forced to work a grueling all-night 19-to-20-hour shift, from 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 or 4:00 a.m. the following day, the children sleep on the factory floor for two or three hours before being woken to start their next shift at 8:00 a.m. that same morning.”

Walmart does more than enslave children. They aslo use corrupt business practices to make headway in new and emerging markets.  In 2012 Walmart was involved in a Huge corruption scandal  in Mexico. In 2015 they were probed (not for the first time) for Payoffs and Bribes in Brazil. This year a four year, global probe is ending. This probe reveals misconduct in these countries and Corruption in China and India

These are just two of the many issues that Walmart has internationally. Throw in minimum wage payments to workers in the Unitwd States, the anti- Union sentiment and the general working conditions Walmart is an all out evil company. 

What can we do here in Trinidad? 

Honestly not much. I can’t tell you to stop spreading your budget, purchasing the things you have to at the best price possible. I can ask you to research more, spend better, restrict spending on brands and in companies that are unethical. The most you can do is take away as much as you can from these companies. 

Brands like old navy, Hanes, Carters, George, child of mine (by Carters), Nike, Addidasand so on have had their issues. Research, see how they have remedy the issues and then make your decision. 


Separation anxiety 

Right now I’m dealing with serious separation anxiety. My LO screams bloody murder when ever I leave her with someone else, even a family member. 

My SO celebrated his birthday on Wednesday and we plan to have some drinks on Saturday. That will entail leaving my LO with my sister for a few hours during the day into the evening. To try to ease this I have been leaving her for short times with my sister (who she knows) with toys and with her big sister around and my four month old just screams.  

I know of seperation anxiety usually from 6 months but four months is ridiculous. 

Now because of her blood curdling cries I’m up at 3:00am on Friday morning worrying about the feasibility of Saturday’s outing. 

My heart is beating no thumping, I feel nauseous, I have a headache and I can’t sleep. My nerves of being away and her crying endlessly till I get back is taking a toll on me. This is an avoidable seperation. 

I’m stuck between a rock and sever hard places. 

I’m slowing becoming depressed about leaving her.  I think it’s harder on me that her. 

All the what ifs play in my mind. 

What if my sister can’t handle it and just leaves her to cry? I know that won’t happen but my mind is plaguing me with questions. 

What if she is so upset she won’t eat or sleep or even calm down? I’d be far away on a boat at that and not able to come home! 

I’m a mess. 


The formula fed journey. 

So many sites, Facebook forums, articles and blogpost focus on the breastfeeding journey in its entirety, while there are hardly any chronicling the journey of a formula feeding mom. 

Some of you may be confused as to what I’m speaking about but ff moms also have a unique journey that deserves a space and a discussion. 

The journey starts with a decision, a failure, depression, bartering and judgement.  A formula fed mom can go through all these steps before even feeding their LO for the first time. 

For some it is a well thought out decision. They are simply not going to breast feed. They know the pros and cons and are simply not comfortable or confident enough and have decided that for their situation bottle is best. 

Some, like me with my first, tried to breastfeed and failed. This, coupled with a lack of breastfeeding support from family, lead to formula being supplimemted and then being exclusive, extremely early in my daughters life. 

In hindsight I see the many reasons breastfeeding didn’t work. I didn’t read much on it, as I thought it would be a “natural thing”. I bought a cheap off brand pump, I didn’t research ways to reduce pain or bruising and I didn’t understand the latch differences.

 I gave up and had to face the condescending looks when I went to clinic for the first time. Every breast feeding mama and well-to-do nurse had some advice and a few questions as to why the baby wasn’t being “given the best start in life “. I must admit I was ashamed. I began to feel depressed and beat my self up about depriving my baby of what she deserves. 

I struggled with these feelings for a long time. It was made worse when my baby didn’t easily take formula either. 

She was constipated, had acid reflux, consistently brought up or spit up (it was so bad that in outings we walked with towels not rags). I tried every single enfamil on the shelf. There are ones for fussy babies, gassy babies, babies who spit up, the ones closest to mothers milk, the soy ones, the this ones and the that ones and nothing seemed to settle my LO. I switched and switched until she settled on simalac. Then I bought every tim I saw because I didn’t ever want to run out and have to buy something else that I knew would irritate her. 

See the parts of the formula fed journey that isn’t told deals with all this. The constipated  and dehydrated baby who cries and whose stool is so hard it hurts to pass.

 It is about the half tins and wasted whole tins of milk that you bought which the baby won’t keep down. 

It is about constantly worrying about the nutrition and weight gain (and loss) of your LO.

 It is about praying you don’t run out of money just trying to find the right formula and hoping that when you find it it isn’t that expensive and that it is easily found.

 It is the making sure you have hot water thermos and cool water thermos because unlike boobs bottles aren’t ready on demand, they have to be prepared first. If too hot the worry is that the baby gets burnt if too cold the baby won’t drink it.

 It is about making that bottle and then the baby didn’t want it and it wastes and you worry about the fact that that is money going down the drain. 

It is about the leaving a bottle out and inadvertently picking it up at 2am and feeding a baby only to realize half way through and sit up the rest of the night monitoring the baby for symptoms.  

It is about formula spills in the bag, making a bottle when the Dan is on or in breeze, changing nipples and bitten nipples swallowed, cleaning bottles, buying more bottles, loosing bottles and not having enough bottles on the go. It is about the constant spending and spending and then some more spending just to make sure your LO is fed and healthy. Then it is about the questions and guilt. It is about the need to defend the way you feed your human. It is the need to prove that you are doing what is best in your circumstance in your life for your LO and your family.  It is the constant state of being judged and questioned. 

The formula feeding journey has as many ups and downs and intricacies as the breast feeding journey and should be recognized. 

Have you formula fed? What are your stories. 

Is breast best? 

Ok so let’s talk about boobs. There is a wonderful movement advocating breast feeding and the normalizing of public breast feeding. I’m all for this movement as I breast feed openly and my LO hates to be covered. So moms don’t feel comfortable doing it and that’s ok. That doesn’t make you less of a breast feeding mommy. 

The problem I have with the movement is that is has started to become a bit catty. Breastfeeders are adopting a superiority complex over formula feeders.  When EBF’s (exclusively breast feeders ) gang up on a mom it is the most painful thing I can watch. 

Let me get this straight. FED is best. How ever you see it for to feed your LO fed is best!

I feel this way because although I’m a successful breastmilk producing and dispensing badass now, I could manage to feed my first born from the tap. I remember the questions. People asking if I tried hard enough, asking if I gave up, telling me my LO would be “not as smart, not as healthy, not as thin, not as developed ” as a breastfed baby. There were days I though o was doing it wrong, felt like I was failing my LO, especially in Trinidad where every nurse in the hospital and clinic wants to remove “artificial nipples ” and are extremely judgmental.  I want no mom to feel this. 

There was nothing special I did this time. There was no more or extra effort. There wasn’t a special technique I learned. It just worked this time. My LO latched, my nipples didn’t bleed, my milk came in faster and it just worked. 

Do not stress, if it hurts the latch is incorrect. There is a breastfeeding group at MT Hope (I don’t know the days and times as it changes ) Read as much as you can. There are also things you can take to increase your supply. Please consult your physician first. 

The breastfeeding journey can be difficult. The Trinidad and Tobago breast feeding association Can help also if you need more help you can check. 

La leche league international
International Lactation Consultants
There are many other sites but I find these two most helpful. They cover breastfeeding and pumping and advise on milk storage and preparation. 

If you really want breast milk look for a wet nurse or donor milk in your area. It’s a new venture in the country so as usual research and keep you physician involved in the process. 

What’s your feeding story? Share with us in the comments section! 

Do I NEED that? Part two- Baby bags 

Baby bags!!! ❤💗 for me this
a whole blog postbecause I love baby bags and baby bag shopping. 

Right now my daughter has a hello kitty carryall bag which is not really a baby bag but it does the job and is cute and different. She also has a Child of Mine by Carters and a generic one I thought was cute. 

To me baby bags are important because it is going to be hanging on you and your SO for a few years. Get something that is versatile, says something about your style and that will last. I recommend spending a little extra on this as it will be used often (everyday) and for a long time.  

What to look for.

When shopping for baby bags SIZE MATTERS it must be able to comfortably hold enough pampers or cloth diapers for an outing or a trip to day care. (Some day cares take the entire box and tell you when to replenish others don’t ). 

It should hold all changing accessories (pads, powders , ointments , wipes etc). 

It should be able to hold medications, bottles or bottle warmer bag, formula (for formula fed babies) thermos (formula fed babies) change of clothes for baby (or a few changes)rags and a blanket. 

You need pockets and lots of them. Outside pockets come in handy to store your baby’s spitup raga or bibs or even one for your cellphone so you can grab it during that I opportune time it decides to ring while you’re balancing your screaming infant in on hand leaned against a stroller digging for a pamper. Yuh know if it’s important.

 Speaking of digging for pampers how about looking for dedicated compartments inside the bag or what I use are little bags within my bag. These bags sort my stuff out so if I need anything I just grab that bag a d it’s there. For my cloth diapers I use a wet bag with my shells and inserts and a change of clothing with wipes. This is everything I need for a quick change in one bag that I can just take out of my carryall. You can lump items like I do or make your own groupings defendant in your needs.

Lastly remember comfort. Look at the straps and make sure with weight the bag will be comfortable to carry.  Make sure the strap can be adjusted, is securely attached to the bag and won’t fall off or burst. Even if you love the bag and the straps aren’t all that great think of ways you can reinforce by taking it to a seamstress or sewing it yourself. 

There is so much more we can talk about baby bags! Add your input to this post and let us know what you think is necessary in a baby bag!

Hiya nice to meet you 

Hi there! Thanks for taking the time out to join me on this journey into mommyhood. I’m starting this blog and it’s called Under the Fuzzy Blanket. It’s named after my daughter’s favorite thing and her favorite place to be. Who doesn’t like to cuddle and be nurtured under a soft fluffy blanket?It will appare here on trinimomcorner.

My name is Anisa Edmund and I have two girls one is eight and one is three months at this time.

I have experienced so much in my life as a mom from divorce to single mothering, dating while being a single mom, pursuing a degree, working, maintaining a social life etc etc etc.

Currently I’m in a happy relationship with my SO and we are plodding along with our family businesses trying to make our way in this world.

We are an interracial couple who love food and family so there will be a few food posts also lol.

The purpose of this blog is to engage and inform mothers and new mothers about all the advances in baby care and gear available that I find through my research and experiments (poor kids).

I intend to do product reviews ; for things I’ve tried for both girls (so there will be a huge age difference ). The reviews will cover baby gear and toys, clothing, educational websites, lessons schools, places to go things to do here in Trinidad and Tobago.

I intend to do parenting style perspectives as I waddle my way through it all ; attachment parenting, co parenting and the whole step fathering and grandfathering.

I hope to be able to help where I can, learn what I can from you guys and answer a many questions as possible.

This is an interactive group so your posts and pictures and are always welcomed.

As I develop this idea more I will expand what I post about but it will be centered around my life as a mom and the things you and I face living loving and growing.